Re: Re: I don't understand women!
Don't let it take you by surprise when she's suddenly "unavailable" on weekends. Start using protection; if she's like most girls you're going to need it. ....
You're better off without.
I'm with 'sly on this one dude.
After 4 years, there should be no 'backing up' of the commitment level. If she's not sure, move on. It sounds like it to me that you are genuine, and committed, and this is taking you for a serious loop. Any chick that would question her guys' committment in this way is not worthwhile.
It could be only that; she's asking for space, since she's wondering how you'll react, just to see how 'committed' you are. If that were/is the case then she should rebound in less than a week.....
Or, worst case, she has found someone, and is looking for an 'out' maybe hoping you will cheat or something, so she can use it against you, to end the relationship, even though she is the one that wanted it first.
I'm not psychic, so I can't say which it is. Only time will tell, but don't blow this off, and don't assume this means nothing.... Women play games for a reason; the sad thing is they aren't conscious of it most of the time.... the mind games just come naturally to them.
My opinion, ride the train for free, but wrap that rascal.
Also, make it absolutely clear to her, that if she doesn't want you totally and wholey the way you are, then you can't let her have you and your entire self either. (that parts hard, cuz we all want nookie, but saying this will make that impossible with her)
It's ilke our cars.... either you're devoted, or you're not. If you only want a partial relationship, it will fall apart, and cost you gobs of money and grief in the interim.
I just reread what I wrote, and I sorta contradicted myself.
What I meant was, you shouldn't just go along for the free ride... you should hold out, and make her realize that she either takes you as you are, or doesn't get you at all. This will make her understand that you are serious, and committed. It will also force her to decide whether or not she can give herself to you fully, or if she has ANY reservations. (which, unfortunately, I think she does)
If you CAN't do that, because it's so damn hard to resist, then just ride the nookie train, but wrap it up.
There. that makes more sense now. (I hope)